Many Seasons, Many Soulmates

We LISTEN to love songs.

That's all I need to say to you. Even if everything else you read from me today ends up sounding Greek from here on out, that first sentence will be the only one that I ever needed to write to get your attention and recognition to begin with.

We listen and HEAR what love songs tell us. They tell us that there is only one true love out there for each person, only one true soul that will see you as you are, understand you, accept you, return that love and reflect your message in a bottle back to you, freeing all the pain, emotion and feeling previously frozen inside of you

They promise us we will become free, yet as one with this soul mate, and we'll be able to breathe again. And love songs tell the truth. They just stretch it a wee bit when in verse and melody they make IMMORTAL that which turns out to be as elusive and temporary as everything else in the world.

I am writing about the one lesson I have finally absorbed in my heart from the precious soul mates I have been honored to love along my journey, and I reflect on it often. It's actually a very simple truth but one that's very hard to accept until you are ready to see, my grasshopper.

I am writing about the one lesson I have finally absorbed in my heart from the precious soul mates I have been honored to love along my journey, and I reflect on it often. It's actually a very simple truth but one that's very hard to accept until you are ready to see.

I believe, no, I am convinced, that we are sent here to earth to learn and grow in order to become the people we are meant to be. As we change and grow physically, our minds are opening, changing and hopefully, growing as well.

I heard a saying a few years ago that I have carried around with me ever since. It goes something like - People are in your life for either a season, a reason, or a lifetime. If you really stop and think about it you realize that you are NOT the person you are now that you were even a year ago. I know that at 46 years old I am still growing.

In thinking back, I realize that in each important SEASON of my life, I indeed had a true love that I swore my heart to, complete with commitment and all the trappings that go along with what the love songs tell us. That person WAS my one and only soul mate for THAT time in my life.

I didn't realize it then when it came to what I know now was it's natural end, but the relationship I shared with that person at THAT time was perfect and complete. And what's more, my soul is better now for having that person in my life then. It was what we both needed for whatever our final purpose in life is.

There are also those soul mates who came into my life for a reason, and those relationships aren't always smooth sailing. I married the LOVE of my life for another life SEASON and we stayed together long after our shelf-life had run out.

I remember feeling for years like I was not living MY life, and I know he wasn't living his either. Neither one of us really broached the subject but neither one of us was happy or content. I actually prayed and prayed hard that he would find someone he LOVED NOW so I would be able to go. When that actually happened, I was devastated but only for the reason that my OLD life with him was at end.

We ended 18 years, thank God, on amicable terms and now as friends, we have the close relationship we could never have as marrieds. But we needed each other for our lessons for the season we shared. And I thank him for helping my soul to grow.

The lesson I now know he was teaching me all those years we were together was the lesson of discovering my strength inside. And he was not a gentle teacher grasshopper.

Do I believe that you end up eventually with the kind of soul mate all those songs promised you so long ago? Yes I do.

I do believe I have that at last. But it only seemed to appear after I had been honed, by trial and error, into the person I am now who accepts herself totally. It took years for that to happen to me.

I finally see and love myself, faults and all. It was as much about knowing and refusing to accept what I didn't want, as it was about what I thought I needed from love.

I believe that when you end up with your soul mate from the love songs, you will be able to walk together from there on in life. Your journey and his will still be rightly all your own, but there will be a loving companion to hold your hand when you need assurance and quiet strength.

I believe your song soul mate will be the one you become the most open for, and you will be able to feel each other's warmth and acceptance even on the coldest days when you are apart for even the littlest while.

So try to remember that everything you are now, will be in the future and truths you have learned so far was accomplished with the help of many other souls sent to make your path a bit clearer. They are who they are and will become due in part to your help with their journey, as well.